Contacting Your College Roommate
If you select a roommate, you will already be in touch with that person and will probably begin working out details immediately. If you are matched with a random person, you should get in touch with him or her soon after receiving his contact information from your school.
- Talk to your roommate as soon as possible
- Conversations reveal a rommate's personality
- Don't be overeager; do get to know the person
Your initial contact with your new roommate, by whatever means, should be fairly generic. You want to get to know this person and let him or her get to know you, but neither of you should overwhelm the other. Here are some questions to ask during your first conversation:
- Why did you choose Gardner-Webb?
- How many brothers and sisters do you have? Are they older or younger than you?
- How are you spending your summer?
- Do you know what you want to major in yet?
- Are you involved in sports, theatre, band, or other activities?
- When can you talk again?
In your next conversation you should get to know this person a little better and begin to plan for move-in day. You probably will want to wait to ask about preferences, such as having guests in the room or how loud to play music, unless these things are deeply important to you. Questions you could ask during the second conversation include:
- What do you like to do for fun?
- How would you like to decorate the college room?
- Which appliances or decorations can you bring on move-in day?
- Do you know anybody else who will be attending Gardner-Webb?
- What classes are you planning to take?
Between phone conversations, you should send an occasional e-mail to your new roommate. You do not want to appear too eager, but you do want to continue to get to know this person better.
Prior to arriving on campus, you should have at least one more phone coversation with your roommate. This final conversation can cover more personal territory and include some of the following questions:
- Are you in a relationship? If so, will your significant other be visiting the room often?
- What kind of social life are you hoping to find at Gardner-Webb?
- What is your favorite movie, book, or song and why?
- What will you miss most about your family?
- What are you most looking forward to about Gardner-Webb?
If you lay the groundwork for a friendship with your roommate, you will increase your chances for a successful living arrangement. And by discussing important matters before you even arrive at school, you can avoid messy arguments and set the tone for open roommate communication.